Learning to Build a Life Together
Children often learn life lessons the hard way, and they stumble many times before they are able to do what they want without mishaps. They look forward to becoming adults and having the luxury of doing what they want and they see it as a time when they will be able to do it flawlessly. They do not realize adults have their own stumbles in life, and many of them have to do with beginning their life with a partner.
There are no guarantees that life will go smoothly once a partner has been found or even that the relationship will continue once both people have made a commitment to it. There are many obstacles to navigate in life, and couples have to learn how to get through them as they build their life together. Some will be easy for them, but others will take their lives in directions they never foresaw.
Building a life together is a series of choices, and there are many times when one or the other partner will have to choose to compromise. If neither of them is willing to give in, they will eventually lose their bond. It takes time for most couples to learn how to compromise, and it is not an easy process. They must feel it is a worthwhile compromise, and it has to be done without regrets that will destroy their trust in each other.
Living with another person means making allowances for their strengths and weaknesses, but it is also a time when their personal behavior affects both people. Compensating for a partner’s lifestyle and choices is the foundation of a relationship, but it should never be a weakness. Learning to live together is how a couple finds strength in their differences, and they then use it to discover ways to enhance their compatibility.